Monday, August 27, 2018

Black & White & Wise has now been renamed! + Updates

August 27, 2018 0
Hey Guys!
If you are wondering why this blog looks different, it is because I have changed my blog's name from "Black & White & Wise" to "The Monochromatic Blog". My socials have also changed as follows:
Instagram: @themonochromaticblogger
Facebook: @themonochromaticblog

I finally decided to get my own domain as the ugly "blogspot.com" in my URL was making my website look unprofessional and I think it was also limiting my website's potential. I decided to also change my blog's name to The Monochromatic Blog because my old name didn't feel true to myself anymore. I think I outgrew that name and decided to name it something I came up with literally a day before I got my domain. I love this new name so much more and I hope you do as well!

the monochromatic blog logo copyright

I will be focusing on my blog as much as possible and will be working on a few things such as building an email list, etc.

If you didn't know already, you can now GUEST POST on my blog! Click here to be redirected to the requirements and submissions page.

I have also opened an Etsy store if you didn't know already!: Click here to go to my Etsy store!

I am excited to have some great new content out for you guys and hoping some of you would also like to collaborate with me and write articles for my blog!

What's coming out this month and next month:

  • Makeup and Skincare Essentials (Guest Post)
  • Back-to-school/Back-to-college series
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Thank you for supporting my website
Love you all!❤
Nikki

     

Sunday, August 26, 2018

Would I Change it All? - 5 Important Lessons I've Learned

August 26, 2018 0
If I could go back in time and speak with my younger self,
would I tell her my life and change what was to come?
life lessons ive learned



Would I - tell myself to stay away from that boy. The boy
who first stole my heart, the boy I gave everything to, the
boy I bunked off college for (regularly) and the boy who so
cruelly broke my heart?
No.
I would do it all again.
He was vain, selfish, loved to be adored, and I was obsessed with him. I was
blinkered to his numerous infidelities and blinded by my completely
unwavering love for him, so when he ended it all, I thought I would die...
I didn’t! To my surprise, after a short period of the world crushing heartbreak,
I became stronger, stronger than I was before and vowed to myself, that I’d
never again be treated as though I was anything less than a queen, a vow that
I continue to live by.

Would I - stay in college instead of getting a job?
No.
My job made me happy, I was never particularly academic and the day I
decided to leave college, I secured myself a job in a clothes shop. Not the life
as a Royal Engineer or midwife that I’d imagined, but for the first time I felt
like I’d made an adult decision, It might not have been the right one but I
owed it to myself to do my best to make it work.


Would I – move out of my parents' home earlier?
No.
I lost my father to cancer last year, he was my everything, so I’m incredibly
grateful for the time spent living with my parents, it was amazing. They
supported me while I worked out where I fitted in this crazy life, they opened
their home back up to me and my family when we were between houses and
they showered my children and husband with all the love they had shown me
growing up.


Would I – say goodbye to that holiday romance?
Hell No.
I fell in love with him.
He was 4 years younger and loved me in a way I had never known... He was
kind, loving and desperately wanted to settle down and start a family. It was
something I had never wanted before, but he made me feel like this was the
right time for us. We decided to try for a baby only weeks after meeting and
married a few months later in a beautiful village church, thank goodness for
the Ex-Navy Chaplin that married us and made light of the fact that I was 6
months pregnant, giving us a hilarious & truly memorable service. Our
beautiful daughter was born and thanks to an accident that saw my new
husband medically discharged from the Queens Horse Guards (British Army),
he was by my side.


Would I – learn of the problem causing my secondary infertility sooner?
No.
The 10 years that we were trying for our second child were some of the most
difficult in our relationship. I was low, and he was trying to pick me up all the
time, it took its toll and we took a short break from each other. When we
realized that we were better together than apart, our relationship became
unbreakable, and a few years later, quite miraculously led to our precious
second daughter.

sunset beach
These lessons are indeed just that, they have helped me to learn, move forward
and become a stronger woman, mother, wife, and human.

If I was to change any of them, I wouldn’t be the person I am today or lead the
happy life that I do.

I could have been richer, more successful, or even famous had my choices been
different, but I believe without a doubt that this is the life that is perfect for me,
full of love and surrounded by people of integrity and happiness.

My advice to you, is to make your choices and own your decisions, things will not
always work out or go to plan, but they will all leave you with either happiness or
a lesson, and neither are bad if you use them to move forward with your life.
Txx


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Friday, August 3, 2018

Easily pack your necklaces for traveling and avoid tangled jewelry!

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So I've been in India for almost a couple of months and I've started to pack to go back to the USA.
One problem I always deal with is packing jewelry! Rings and earrings (small studs, usually) are easy to just throw into a little zip-lock bag or a little container but necklaces are a whole other thing.

My necklaces always get entangled. Even if I separate them in bags/containers they intertwine a million times by the time I unpack them and it's a pain to separate the teeny tiny chains.

This technique requires only a very easy and quick DIY at the most. If you have the piece of plastic or cardboard that usually comes with jewelry like you will see below, you don't even need to worry about "DIYing" anything.
Read on to know how to easily store your necklaces in your suitcase when you are traveling!

store your necklace for traveling easy        Photo by Pat Kwon    


You just need:
  • A small cardboard or hard plastic sheet
  • Scissors
  • Your necklaces (or bracelets if that is what you want to organize)
The cardboard sheet you will need should be long but doesn't have to be as long as ur necklaces.
Use a pair of scissors lying around your room or an X-Acto knife to cut small slits in the sheet you chose.  Cut slits on both sides at the same places. 

diy necklace holder for travel simple


Then simply put your necklace chain into the slit. Keep the chain taut and then put it in the slit on the opposite side. You can cut multiple slits some distance apart each if you wish to store many necklaces in a smaller space.

easy diy necklace holder for travel

You can see above that I used an old Forever 21 accessory holder sheet and cut slits in that. Reuse such waste lying around from your last shopping trip if you only need a temporary solution!


Chances are your sheet isn't long enough for your necklace and you have a lot of extra chain hanging behind your newly-made necklace holder. This part isn't going to look too clean but if you can't stand a little mess read below for an alternative. For those of us who just want a quick solution, all you need is a little piece of scrap paper or post-it and a piece of tape. 

Just wrap the remaining length of your necklace or necklaces with the paper or post-it and tape it to the back of your sheet.

diy necklace holder for travel

And for those of you who want to keep it a bit more organized and/or reusable, you can use a tiny ziplock bag or just a random tiny plastic back. Put the extra chain inside and use tape to secure the plastic bag to the bag.

And there you have it! A quick and simple solution to your necklace-tangling nightmares when you are packing your bag to travel.

diy necklace holder for travel


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Hope you guys enjoy the rest of your summer!



Friday, June 29, 2018

Quick 10-minute Bullet Journal Spread for when you are busy! - July 2018

June 29, 2018 1
bullet journal spread july 2018 quick and easy

Summer can get really busy and even though you love the notebook that you use for journaling or really want to plan your summer, sometimes you just don't have the time to fill up your bullet journal with 10 different washi tapes and 10 different layouts across 10 different pages.

So here's a really quick and simple bullet journal spread/layout I did for July 2018 that takes 10 minutes to do and doesn't require a lot of brain power in terms of creativity and design.

If you want to skip this post and watch the video so you can multitask or simply due to preference, click on my youtube video below! If not, just scroll down...




bullet journal spread july 2018

I faced two main problems when preparing to make my July spread.
The first problem was that I didn't bring any of my Tombow calligraphy pens, washi tapes, etc. and also didn't have any watercolors to decorate with instead. The second was that I didn't have much time to make my spread as my summer has been pretty busy so far.
I had to do with what I had - which was, obviously, my Moleskine bullet journal, some construction paper, and my black ball pens (and a sketch pen). 

Here is my minimal and simple bullet journal spread for the month of July made with the least number of stationery items I have used ever and least amount of time. Bullet Journal: Extremely Minimal Edition.

bullet journal spread july 2018 quick and easy

bullet journal spread july 2018 quick and easy

bullet journal spread july 2018 quick and easy

I dislike writing with a ball pen and strongly prefer gel especially for bullet journaling. I think my bullet journal spread for this month was definitely less neat but it was very simple since I didn't have too many materials to work with. It was also shorter since I know in July I will be vacationing and I only have one summer class I am taking online.

I only added basic elements to my journal - monthly calendar overview, monthly goals and tasks, important dates and deadlines for the month, and simple weekly spreads with my 4th and the 5th week being merged under the heading "Week 4" and having only different task categories headlined.

I recommend this "flash journaling" spread for anyone who doesn't have time to create a full-on spread and will be having a "meh" month with not much to plan!

Have you made your Bullet Journal spread for July yet? Comment below and let me 

know what style your monthly spread is - minimal or decorative?


Thursday, June 28, 2018

How My Acne Got Cured - How you should properly manage your acne!

June 28, 2018 0
I dealt with severe acne for about 4 to 5 years and it wasn't easy at all. As of today, I am so happy to say that I no longer deal with severe acne. I may have occasional breakouts here and there but that's it. My face has mostly cleared up and even the acne spots are slowly fading away. If you want to know more about my acne story, click the link to my article below:
I hope to help those like me who have dealt with acne for longer than you should have. So if you currently deal with acne or know someone who has been dealing with acne for a quite some time, share this post (you can share with the buttons at the end of this article) with them so that they or you can finally enjoy having clear and clean skin.

how to cure severe hormonal acne

If you read my article above, you know that I had very persistent acne and I tried a lot of different things but all of the methods failed. No face wash, no cleanser, no acne beauty products were improving the condition of my face at all. However, there was one face wash that did the trick just a little bit. It helped me control acne but it wouldn't always prevent new acne forming. Though, my skin would look cleaner (compared to using other products) and the face wash had a cooling effect that helped minimize my pores. I believe, to some extent, it did help reduce my acne by almost an unnoticeable amount, which was good, but not enough.

The product I'm talking about is the Neem Face Wash by Organic Harvest.
Now if you haven't heard of the company, it makes sense. It isn't very popular yet. The company is based in India but I'm pretty sure they also ship to other countries. But you are definitely in luck if you are in India or someone from India can get this product for you (less shipping fees or no shipping if you buy it from a store)
This product made the most difference to my skin than any other non-medicated/non-prescribed product I have tried.
    I also attempted to make changes in my diet, like reducing my intake of dairy products, consuming less of oily foods, etc. I cannot be certain if these changes helped my acne or till what extent they did but I definitely noticed a slight reduction in my facial acne during this "dietary change" period.

    However, let me tell you what really cleared up all of my acne in just a matter of few months.
    Medications. Yes, that is right. I did a whole course of medications to eliminate my acne. I am honestly surprised of how less this is recommended on other blogs. Prescribed medicines can sound a bit scary and I don't blame you, because sometimes they do have side effects. Some side-effects I experienced were frequent hunger pangs (totally random, right?) and a minor skin allergy. However, the side effects subsided in a few days and weren't bad at all, to be honest. If you have been dealing with acne for as long as I have, you know that a few days of hunger pangs and a little itchiness on your face is completely worth for getting rid of your acne. Other than those minor side effects, I didn't really have another trouble.

    When you visit a dermatologist, he/she can tell you exactly the reason why you have acne. Acne isn't only caused due to "not keeping your skin clean". There could be several factors that cause and aggravate it. In my case, most of my acne was hormonal. My dermatologist also diagnosed that the acne on my left cheek was due to UV radiation. Note that I applied sunscreen (SPF 40 and PA++ or above) almost every time I stepped out of my house. Turns out you can get acne due to UV radiation even if you take such precautions. You can't diagnose your own acne unless you are a dermatologist, and I'm assuming you are not since you wouldn't be reading this if you were. It really helps to know exactly why you have acne and to be prescribed medications to get rid of it quickly. The time for the treatment obviously depends on what kind of acne you have, how long you have had it, and how severe it is. The process requires patience and some efforts from your side too but I, personally, thought it was the best decision I had made.

    I was prescribed 2-3 different tablets/capsules every time I visited my dermatologist (which was about once a month) for around 5 months or so. As of now, I am only on external (cream) medication.

    I noticed that I had absolutely no new acne forming on my face for a good few months after my oral medications stopped. My acne is still very in control but I have very small bumps (very, very small) appear on my face once in a while. The cream I am currently prescribed is to help with that. Overall, I have had very clear skin even after my oral medications stopped and my skin's quality is definitely way better than it used to be (absolutely no doubt!).

    One thing I'd like to share is that, before I decided on getting an appointment with the dermatologist, I decided I wanted to make at least some of my acne disappear before I went. I was determined and found a few face packs to make at home and other remedies and they actually did some good. One thing that I did twice every single day was spritzing my face with diluted rose water using a spray bottle.
    I will probably put up a post on this method, and other face packs that helped me, soon.

    If you think that going to a dermatologist is not an option for you (though I highly, highly recommend it), you should also visit the link below. The article is a complete skin care routine that helped me manage my acne and still helps me maintain my skin:
    You may not be able to go to a dermatologist for certain reasons, maybe you don't have a good one near you or maybe you cannot afford to visit one (the medications can be expensive too, sometimes, depending on what medications you are prescribed). But if there is there is any way you can, you should definitely do it if nothing else is working out for you.

    An important part of this entire process is consistency. You should be consistent with your medications and your acne routine. If you are prescribed oral medications, do not think you can get away with not washing your face for the entire day or longer. You have to maintain your skin quality and provide internal and external help to your skin.

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    Saturday, November 4, 2017

    My Weekend Resets - How to de-stress!

    November 04, 2017 0
    Long time, no see?

    Firstly, thanks to my friend for motivating me to write a blog post (though I don't know how often I will be posting yet - I'm a bit overwhelmed still as you will read ahead)

    I am taking a little time off my blog because I am unable to get inspiration to write things here. I will probably have some study-related posts or organization posts or something out there soon. Lately, I've been really messy and all over the place. I've had a lot of anxiety this past week and felt like I had no control.
    I like weekends because I can reset my mood. One of the reasons I was so anxious and unmotivated recently was because I didn't have time, and when I did, I wasn't being productive.
    Being productive is very important to me and it makes me feel extremely satisfied and happy. I love being busy.
    I was completing all my assignments last-minute and it made me feel horrible. I was completely stressed out.
    So this is me resetting my mood.



    C L E A N

    The first thing I like to do is clean up my mess. Don't get me wrong, I love a good organized mess because I know where everything is and it's all on the floor for me to easily find. However, a mess on my floor is a depiction of my mind - a mess. My floor is filled with books, loose pages (since I don't really use notebooks), and files. Step one for my reset is to segregate my crap. Pages to recycle go in a pile, textbooks go back in my book shelf, pages either go in the "make notes" pile (I make messy notes during my lectures and then create organized and clean notes later on) or in the files for the class they belong to. Files then also go into my bookshelf.
    I then pick big pieces of scrap paper and put them into my trashcan. Then comes the vacuum.
    Nothing makes me happier than a super clean, vacuumed floor after living in a mess for a week. I usually get messy every week but that's okay.
    I then clean my desk and organize my bookshelf if needed.

    P.S. I love playing some joyful music to make my mood even better.

    P L A N

    For some reason, my planner pages for the weekend is very messy. I like to just scribble things I have to do. Sort of therapeutic, actually.

    S T U D Y

    The next investment I make to lessen the stress in the coming week is to study.
    First, I complete assignments that are due on Monday. Then, if I am able to do those in time, I go ahead and do assignments that could be due after Monday. For example, I usually do assignments for a class I only have on Thursdays since the material is up by the weekend. By doing this, I have extra time during the week to study and not get overwhelmed by tests and assignments.

    S E L F - C A R E

    Stress usually impacts my hair. I've had hair fall for quite some time now and when I'm stressed or not taking care of myself, it accelerates. Hence, on the weekends I usually apply an Oil hair pack thingy concoction to my hair (I may make a mini post on what I use). It immediately makes my hair feel healthier and fall less. It always makes me feel better when my hair looks good (in terms of quality and not how it actually looks lol).

    H E A L T H

    I like to go to the gym at least once a week and a Saturday or Sunday is the perfect day when I have no plans. Even a little exercise is great for your body if you don't have the time to do too much.



    A  G O O D  E N D I N G

    I like to end the day with wrapping up my homework/studying by 8-ish and then watching an episode or two of some TV Show. Recently, I have also been reading a chapter or two of "Many Lives, Many Masters" by Dr. Brian Weiss before going to bed. 

    Saturday, September 30, 2017

    People - A Photography Album

    September 30, 2017 0
    Just a random compilation of a few photos I took of human beings. I never really took pictures of other people because my comfort zone is "non-living" or "non-motile" (aka Nature, usually). So this is kind of like a trial, I guess. I hope to have some proper photoshoots in the future! 

    ©BlackandWhiteandWise
    Literally taken in my bedroom. Spur of the moment decision when I realized the lighting in my room became kind of dramatic (monsoon season yas)

    ©BlackandWhiteandWise
    Took this picture at my dad's office's opening ceremony. Everyone was dressed up in Indian Attire. The chief guest cut the ribbon and was given a bouquet of flowers as a gift.


    ©BlackandWhiteandWise
    Taken of my brother as he waited to be hit by the tides of Miami Beach last year.

    ©BlackandWhiteandWise
    Self Portrait by that same window because dramatic af

    ©BlackandWhiteandWise
    This candid picture was taken of my friend on New Years Eve 2016. We (friends) were dressed up to do a photoshoot and I clicked this actual candid (it wasn't faked, I swear). Quality is not as good as the other pictures due to some unknown reasons and maybe because the artificial lighting was not good enough to trick the camera into thinking it was daytime.



    Wednesday, September 27, 2017

    Petroleum Jelly v/s Eyelids (What it Did to my Eyes & Why you shouldn't use it)

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    Like a lot of people, I spend a lot of time on Pinterest and the Internet in general. I read on a couple of occasions that people were using Petroleum Jelly on their eyelids to make their eyelashes grow and I was intrigued.
    The particular reason for it catching my eye (geddit? geddit?..I'm sorry please don't leave) was the fact that I have short, sparse eyelashes and I've disliked that for a very long time now. My eyebrows are sparse as well. Despite having this first world "problem", I never really did anything or never took care of my eyes to maybe help them be moisturized or whatever. I just let them be and once in a while would hope that I would wake up with my eyelashes a little longer.

    When I saw that people were using petroleum jelly, I thought, why not. Petroleum jelly is branded as a cure-all or help-all so I thought there would be no harm.
    I started applying it to my eyelash line every day hoping the moisture it provided would help my eyelashes grow somehow (as if they were plants).
    For a little backstory, let me tell you other factors that played into the soon-addressed disaster.
    I was traveling every day to school by bus. Public bus. In India. If you know anything about the city life in India, you know that it is very polluted and traveling by a public non-AC bus (I also traveled by AC buses but the non-AC buses were more frequent so I'd ride them so I could reach school earlier) with all the windows open, doesn't really offer any protection from the pollution and dust that's flying around.
    I did wash my face when I came back home but that didn't really help...let me tell you what exactly happened.


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    Apparently, I should've done my research before I decided to use petroleum jelly on my eyes.
    It was the summer time in India, and summers in India are very intense. Sometimes even ceiling fans don't do the job because it is just so hot. One day, I started itching my eyes a little. It didn't hurt, and it just felt like my skin was dry. I didn't think much about it. The sensation became stronger towards night time and I didn't know what to do. I didn't have any eye drops on me so I just washed my eyes with water a couple of times and went to sleep. I woke up with my right eye swollen and red. It looked like there was some fluid buildup and I kind of freaked out. Initially, I thought it was due to the dust and heat or something because I traveled to school daily in unbearable heat. The only thing that didn't add up was, why now? It had been over a year since I had been traveling the same way to school and back and this had never happened in the past. I still washed my face every day like I used to. So what was different now?
    I got a small bottle of some generic eye drops from the pharmacy. Though very slowly, the swelling or whatever it was, did go away. I went back to applying the petroleum jelly and it was all normal for a few weeks. 
    My eye started itching again but I ignored it because it wasn't possible to have another eye infection in the same month was it? I was more careful this time and I made sure to wash my face immediately after I got back. But I was wrong. The same thing happened all over again. I applied the eye drops once a day again and it slowly subsided so I didn't visit an Optometrist.
    By the third time, I knew the moment my eyelids started feeling itchy, what was about to happen. I put in eye drops even before I noticed any bulge or redness but that didn't stop my eye from getting infected. Also, note that it wasn't just only my right eye. My left eye got infected to the second or third time (but it was always only one eye, thankfully). This time it was a bit worse than the last two times and I that's when I finally went to the Optometrist. 
    The Optometrist told me that it was a dust infection and prescribed some medications which helped my eye in just a few days.
    But it still didn't make sense to me. How did I get the eye infection 3 times in one month? It had never happened before.
    I realized that the petroleum jelly was the only variable and I decided to do some research.
    Apparently, even though claimed to be "non-comedogenic", petroleum jelly does trap dust particles in. So I was moisturizing my eyes, but I was also trapping any dust particles that were on my waterline. Petroleum jelly (if you are good at chemistry, you will know), is not soluble in water. Hence washing my eyes with water was not helping and the dust particles remained trapped. I also came to know later that petroleum jelly doesn't really help grow your eyelashes. Moisturizing them doesn't necessarily mean they will grow longer. Basically, I did all of this for nothing and it harmed my eyes (thankfully though it was only temporary). Once I stopped using petroleum jelly, I never experienced another eye infection despite being exposed to the same traffic and pollution and heat.

    Also, another property of petroleum jelly that makes it not-so-safe for your eyes is that it is viscous. It is completely safe to use oils but petroleum jelly is thicker and has more density so it can weigh down on your lashes.

    I didn't take any pictures of the eye infection just because I hated the way my eyes looked (obviously) but I'm pretty sure you can visualize what an upper eyelid looks like when it's swollen and red.

    A lot of people use it and have experienced no inconvenience, but I personally suggest you do the following as a precaution if you are using, and want to continue to use, petroleum jelly on your eyelids (maybe because you want a cheaper alternative to eye creams or something along those lines):

    • Buy a baby shampoo like the Johnson's Baby Shampoo (doesn't have harmful chemicals such as sulfates, parabens, and dyes, and doesn't burn your eyes)
    • Take a drop or two of the baby shampoo and dilute it with water. Wash your eyes very close to the eyelashes (so as to wash your waterline and upper waterline) and then just rinse your face to remove any leftover shampoo
    This will help you remove any dust particles thoroughly and I do this occasionally or frequently depending on how frequently I go out and it's an effective way to prevent any dust related eye infections.

    If you are using petroleum jelly for any reason on your face/body/etc, make sure to use one from a known brand. Don't risk buying from an unknown brand you have never heard from. This is why:
    Petroleum jelly is refined from oil and the components that are removed from it to make petroleum jelly are thought to be carcinogenic (in some cases). Before you freak out, know that companies like Vaseline are tripled refined and are non-carcinogenic. Hence only buy from brands of which the degree of purity is known to avoid unnecessary harm.

    It is also advised that if you have acne or any similar skin condition, you shouldn't use petroleum jelly as a moisturizer for your face (instead you should use a water-based gel moisturizer).

    Even though I believe you shouldn't use petroleum jelly on your face, there's no harm using it on the rest of your body and I still use it on my body as a moisturizer sometimes. You can use it to moisturize your knees or elbows (since they tend to become dry and rough easily, at least in my case). 
    There are a lot of other uses of petroleum jelly where it actually benefits you rather than harming your body, for example:

    • to heal minor scratches/burns
    • on your hair (I've tried this!)
    • when you are doing nail art (to protect the surrounding skin of your fingers)
    • on your pets' paws
    • you can even put a little bit on before spraying your perfume on that spot to preserve the fragrance for a longer time
    Petroleum jelly isn't a dangerous product, but you should just know where to use it!